When your car breaks down or when your umbrella gets damaged on a rainy day or when your partner wants to end your relationship; on these “gloomy” days, we are often compelled to ask WHY. “WHY? WHY today? WHY now? WHY does it have to be me? WHY is he leaving me for a bum? WHY? WHY? WHY? ”

There is no end to these “WHY” questions. It never fails to drive us mad, simply because more often than not, there is NO ANSWER to them! Or does it even matter why!

Many of us will be familiar with the famous quote by Tony Robbins; “Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.” Successful and effective individuals often ask “WHAT” questions Instead of “WHY?”. For example, when they encounter setbacks, they are more likely to ask themselves, “WHAT can I learn from this? WHAT should I do right now? WHAT can I do to handle the situation to make it better?”

Successful and effective individuals don’t go sourcing for troubles, but when they are confronted with negative situations, they ask themselves, “How can I reframe my thoughts and my behaviors? How can I improve?” On the other hand, ineffective people are often oblivious to their surrounding, and when the roof caves in, they ask the classic question, “WHY? WHY do all the negative events happen to me?”

There are a large number of stories we can list; of successful individuals with the biggest failures, and how they got back up. Bill Gates, Oprah Winfrey, Arianna Huffington, Stephen King, Steve Jobs, Conan O’Brien, just to name a few. You can simply “google” their names and you will be presented with a long list of their amazing stories. We are not here to get you all motivated, nor enhance your perseverance, but rather, we just want to bring across a point; these successful individuals definitely were not preoccupied with “WHY” questions during their times of difficulties.

The next time you mess up, or have an epic fail, it might feel as if the world is coming to an end and you are screwed. Stay calm! Remind yourself that you are not the first person to encounter failures and tough times. Start questioning “WHAT” and “HOW”.

Don’t question whether life is fair, you will likely not find answers to your problems. Rather concentrate on what you have. Let’s all strive to make troubles we face as a resource for resilience as opposed to a roadblock. Brave on!

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